Thursday, May 29, 2008


A recently aired commercial for requests people to login to the site to chat with its most experienced members. And that confuses me.

Who exactly are the "most experienced members" of Isn't the very idealistic nature of the website supposed to be for someone to sign on, find someone with the same likes and dislikes, go on a date, and then get married and stay together forever? If that defines success, than how can you be one of THE MOST successful? Are these people who only signed on once and found their ideal person when viewing the first profile? Even if it takes someone several tries to find "the has alot of things going for it. For one thing, its not e-harmony. Unlike that site, caters to everyone - straight and gay - and I know a gay couple who met each other on about 4 years ago and are still together. Internet dating has a lot going for it. It used to be almost taboo and people were almost embarrassed to tell anyone they met that way. The internet was mostly for looking up information, viewing porn, and finding sex hookups. While it is still all three of those things for some people, it has grown in validity as an acceptable dating tool as well. And is one of the good sites, which is why it bugs me that they now have this current gimmick to get people to use it.

Really, anyone who finds another person to love is successful, regardless of how they met or how long it took them to get there. I doubt one person is any more successful at it than another. When a couple celebrates their 50th wedding anniversary after meeting on - THAT will be a success story. Otherwise, until then, the "most successful" are just people who have found some form of happiness, however long it lasted.

And besides, like they say, it's okay to look.


  1. Yeah, that's interesting. It seems to be a paradox: If in fact you were what they claim to be the "most successful," why would you still be chatting with other people on

  2. Oh, and check out e-Cousinality over at The Idea of Progress.

  3. Are they requesting you talk with 'most experienced' or 'most successful'? Those are two completely different things. I don't want to talk with any of its most experienced members -- those are the people who obviously have some sort of of problem making a match. Most successful -- who knows, maybe they met someone great and now they are just there in a chatroom for an hour a night answering questions and giving people hope.