June 1st

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2005 - Babysit Tucker (neighbor's 5 year old Golden Retriever)

2004 - Seth's (nephew) graduation (high school)

2003 - Ashley and I shop around Georgetown in DC.

2002 - John's (another nephew) graduation (high school)

2001 - Clean apartment and go to JR's and Badlands (now Apex) with Ashley

1999 - Rehoboth Beach with Ex#3, dinner at Yum Yum

1998 - Finish moving into Georgetown apartment.

1997 - Dinner at Mr. Henry's, then bar hop to Remington's, Ziegfeld's and the Eagle with friend David.

1996 - Shop for futons with friend Scott

1995 - Graduation (college) party for Ray (cousin)

1993 - Rent "Lost in Yonkers" with Kathy and Jelita

1992 - Move into apartment on Washington Street for summer break. Kim (sister) and Lance (friend) visit.

1991 - Haircut at 11; eye appointment at 2:30; go to Deer Park Lodge (DPL) with Jeff, Matt, David, Joe, Tomas, Dave, Matt G., and Steve.

1990 - Go to DPL with Jeff and Matt

1988 - Mike's (brother) graduation (high school)

1987 - Visit friend Todd; dinner & movie.

1986 - Second paper due in Advanced Composition Class (summer schedule)

IML

This Memorial Day weekend brings the annual "International Mr. Leather" contest (or IML as it is more affectionately known) back to Chicago.

For several days, the gay scene in Chicago becomes bears, muscles, and leather. This will be my first time attending. Happy IML Weekend to everyone in Chicago, and a happy and safe Memorial Day Weekend to the rest of you.

"W" 's Fish Story

Recently, our ever truthful and wise Commander In Chief (and I don't mean Geena Davis) was asked by a German newspaper what were his worst moment in office and his best moment in office. His worst moment, he said, was 9/11. And understandably so, seeing as how he just had to sit in that school room all that time waiting for someone to come tell him what to do. That must have been very trying Junior.

But pertaining to his best moment in office, "W" said, "I would say the best moment of all was when I caught a 7.5-pound perch in my lake." Sweet isn't it?

Nevermind the fact that the world record for a yellow perch is only 4 pounds, 3 ounces. And nevermind the fact that the world record for a white perch (which technically isn't really a perch, but I am adding it here for the sake of argument) is 4 pounds, 12 ounces.

Now, I ask you - if this man is willing to lie about the size of a fish he allegedly caught, can you just imagine how many other lies he has told to the American people, let alone the rest of the world, over the last 6 years??

Boggles the mind, doesn't it?

Nassau

Having never been to The Bahamas, I can admit now that it was exactly what I expected: bright blue sky, green clear ocean, pastel-coloured houses, and everyone sounding stoned. What I didn't know, until I arrived, was that the Bahamas, Nassau, and Paradise Island are all three separate places (I guess I just never had to think about it before). The Commonwealth of The Bahamas is an archipelago of about 700 islands in the Caribbean; Nassau is the capital of The Bahamas located on New Providence Island (for some reason I used to think Nassau was in Florida); Paradise Island is a small island adjacent to New Providence Island. In summation, we went to Paradise Island - so I went on vacation and had a geography lesson.

Now where was I? Oh yeah - the colours of Nassau. On our first full day, we took a boat from Paradise Island to Nassau to walk around. The boat was "hosted" by a local man who, as he claimed, was "not employed by the boat company" and relied on tips for his helpful information from friendly folk such as ourselves. His information consisted of pointing out all the huge houses on Paradise Island, all of which seemed to have something to do with "the actor, Nicolas Cage" (hence Monday's Eye Candy). He seems to own a big chunk of Paradise Island. The tour hosts seem to really have to stretch for things to say on the 10-minute boat ride, because they also needed to point out the houses that were owned by the late actor, Richard Harris, and the even later actor, Charlie Chaplin. Not sure why either of those is relevant, but two separate "tour guides" pointed them out both to and from Nassau.

Nassau looks like it has been beaten up a few times, but that is also the beauty in it. It's something like a battered woman, with bright paint on the buildings chipping away to show the worn suffering underneath. Our first stop was the Straw Market (pictured at left). Rows and rows of individual vendors line the inside of what is basically a huge tent. There might be 100 vendors located here, but each one is selling the same thing, so some try to get your attention more than others. Walking through, we heard, "Hey big guy, hey big guy!" Naturally, I thought it was me, so I just ignored it. And then we heard, "Hey big guy, Tom Cruise!" I guess to the locals, that was a nickname for anyone who was fair-skinned, dark-haired, and adorable-faced, like The BF. Four steps later, we heard, "And how about you, Triple X, Vin Diesel!" (That one, I knew, was for me.)

We walked through the narrow streets and climbed up to the highest point of the island so that we could see Fort Fincastle, a fort that was built for a battle that never happened. We meandered through and caught the first cool breeze of the day after hiking up the Monte Carlo-esque streets. The Fort was small, still with cannons that were unfired lining its walls, and very dark recesses that required the flash on the camera in order to see anything. The view from the top was worth the hike, offering a view for miles across New Providence.

The picture on the far left was taken on top of the fort and behind us you can see the Water Tower, the highest structure on the island. After making our way through yet more vendors (who were admittedly having a rather slow day atop the hill), we went into the tower only to discover that it was closed for repairs, but the view inside, looking up, was just amazing, with light pouring in every window. Still, it would have been fun to climb the steps and take in the view.

Next we walked down a small roadway on our way to see the Queen's 65 Steps. I was struck by a group of houses that were located near the tower. On an island that does not look like its cramped for space, I thought it odd that there would be this row of houses sitting so close to the fort and the tower. Perhaps they were in habited by caretakers at some point, but they didn't seem occupied now. Or perhaps they were. That's what I meant by the weathered look of the city; you can't tell the old from the new. The houses seemed almost forgotten and lonely. But there was still beauty there, and I am glad I stopped to take a picture of it.

The last site we visited was the location of the Queen's 68 Steps, built by slaves during the reign of Queen Victoria to be a passage way from the west and east sides of the island. Try as we might, we could never seem to get a really great explanation of its history. Sure it was an impressive sight, but The BF believes that it looks as though it began as a passage way dug through the rocks that eventually was just given up on and had steps built instead. And that's a pretty good explanation of what it looks like.

We stopped for lunch in town before heading back, by boat, to Paradise Island, having to hear the "tour" again about the big homes and who owns them. The rest of the day was spent laying on the white sands and swimming in the green ocean. And the evening was spent in the Casino. I won a little, but then just gambled it all away. But it was apparently enough for The BF to decide that our next vacation will be a July trip to Vegas.

Paradise Island

The BF and I didn't mind getting up at 5AM in order to get to O'Hare and be on a 7:30AM flight. Leaving Chicago on the 7th straight day of rain was just what we were looking forward to. We completely lucked out on our flights. The first leg was flying from Chicago to Dallas-Ft. Worth, where we sat next to each other in a two-person row. After arriving at DFW, we only had about an hour before our flight to Nassau. After talking with the man at check-in, we managed to score the exit row for just the two of us. Plenty of leg room and space for the three+ hour flight.

We arrived in Nassau just after 3:00PM and had to go through a fairly simple customs process. The airport in Nassau was about the same as the one in Cancun, which I passed through back in 1998. The airports in the Caribbean are stark, lacking the decor and comforts of most American airports. Every room we entered was either very large and empty, or low-ceilinged and dismal. But then again, people are there to tour the islands, not the airports. Still, there was a band in the corner playing a calypso version of "Fools Rush In". The BF dubbed them the "Airport House Band" and we wondered how a group got a gig like that. Was it a real score or considered the bottom of the barrel??

A $30 taxi ride brought us to our condo on Paradise Island, right on the marina. We stayed at Club Land'or, which at first seemed like a strange name until we were told that it translates to "Land of Gold". (Okay, it's still a little strange but at least we got an explanation.) The condo was the perfect place for a beach vacation - not too old as to be outdated, but not too new that you were afraid to get sand on everything. The place offered a great location and easy access to the beach and shopping and restaurants.

And we were just across the marina from The Atlantis Resort, the ultimate Bahamanian destination. Spend a few minutes on their website and you will see what I mean. The place is magnificient. We were lucky to be so close to it, without having to pay for it. Club Land'or seems to be "Cinderella" to the Atlantis's "Wicked Stepmother and Stepsisters". Atlantis tolerates Club Land'or and might even be a bit jealous that it's not really part of the family, but still allows it to exist in its inobtrusive and oblivious way. We were able to access all almost all of Atlantis' ammenities. Especially the casino!

Almost immediately after checking in, we headed to the beach and caught the last rays of the day. The water was crystal clear. Just standing in the ocean we could see fish swimming around our feet. The waves were gentle, not like crashing surfs I am so accustomed to from the east coast U.S. beaches.

One of the first things we realized was that being on an island, just about everything is imported. Along with that comes the costs of such. It's so easy to get lost in the beauty of the island and forget that you are actually paying 75% more for something here than you do in the states. A regular sized smoothie from Jamba Juice costs me $4.50 in Chicago, but cost $8.00 in The Bahamas. Just about everything was marked up like crazy. Two Miller Lites from the bar in the Casino cost $13.70. We quickly adapted to Kalik Beer, which is brewed only in The Bahamas and was not bad, all things considered.

Let me add, however, that The Bahamas is not Mo-friendly. There are no gay bars or clubs to speak of, and acts of violence perpetrated against suspected gay people are not immediately punishable - as recently heard about in current events. And it doesn't help when local Nassau reporters write columns like this. Even the gay travel guide said to "think twice" before going to The Bahamas. But I never felt unsafe where we were, and The BF and I had some fun trying to pick out the other partnered Mo's.

More images tomorrow ...

The Bahamas, Baby!

The BF and I are off to The Bahamas for several days, so I am taking the week off from blogging. I'll return with my usual cranky, whining stories (and hopefully some great Caribbean tales) on Monday, May 22.

Have a great week!

Mothers' Day

There might be an entire week or more that passes when you don't think of her - or she might just not pop into your head or your thoughts, depending on how busy you are. But in contrast, not a single day goes by that she is not thinking of you. Such is the way of a parent, especially a mother. She thinks of you every day, at least once. She can't help it. And for that she deserves a day of honour, and so much more. So this weekend, whether you talk to her or not, remember your mother.

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Not Enough

As if just being me everyday is not reminder enough that I am not considered "the norm", I am reminded in other various ways, throughout my day, that I am just a bit too greedy, or take a bit too much from the rest of the world in comparison to the average man.

I have previously discussed that I sometimes buy my shirts in XXL, and have to shop in stores where the largest size is a medium. But then I find out that I apparently wash my hands a little too long as evidenced in the restroom at work where I have to depress the faucet at least four times before my hands are washed, rinsed and clean. Likewise with the hand dryer that needs to be engaged at least twice before my hands are remotely dry. The weird thing is - I don't have big hands. I rub them gently together, as the directions indicate, but I must be doing something wrong if I have to go through the steps 2 times instead of the calibrated 1. So not only do I use more water, I seemingly use more air, too. My hands might dry faster if I could just have an old man blow on them through a straw.

And while we are in the restroom, who decided where to perforate toilet paper? No one - NO ONE - uses just one sheet of t.p. What is one sheet used for? You can't even blow your nose with it. Toilet paper should come off the roll in 12" perforations. By the time you roll it, fold it, ball it up, or whatever you do with it, you're using a foot at a time anyway.

And why are ketchup packets so small? I have to open at least six of them at a time. Who rationed a small packet of ketchup to go with an order of fries? Who opens just one ketchup packet??

And one Healthy Choice Meal would never fill me up, let alone satisfy me. I need to eat two in order to feel like I've even eaten anything. I know they are portioned out to make for healthy dining, lower calories, blah blah blah. But c'mon! Who can really exist on that?

So apparently, my entire life exists in XXL, not just my closet. What is considered a normal or average amount of anything is just not enough for me. I need more. Not because I am greedy, but just because normal isn't satisfying. I think the difference is that I don't take or use more than I need. I think that is the definition of greed. I have and use enough. But sometimes, enough is just, well... not.

Or Would I?

All who really know me are aware that my physical appearance completely belies my true personality. Well sort of. I only look like I could rip your head off, but I probably wouldn't. Probably.

Or would I?

I realize I sometimes have a slight intimidation factor, which is half the fun of being me. It's nice having a mouth that I don't have to back up with anything more than a raised eyebrow and a curled lip. And I kinda like that. I mean, what's the good of having arms my size if I don't look like I can dent your car with them. I'm friendly. You just have to know me.

I sometimes realize that even my closest friends are never really 100% sure if I would mix it up. Last Saturday night, The BF and I were standing in a coat check line getting ready to leave a club when someone cut in front of us. I tapped the intruder on the shoulder and motioned to the back of the line. He ended up giving his claim ticket to someone else in line ahead of me (touche, I thought). And then as he got his coat and walked by me, he poked me with his finger and began saying something to me, to which I quickly responded, "Don't touch me you little prick". His friend moved him along, apologizing profusely to me. I rolled my eyes. As I do. The BF seemed unsure about what would happen. I wondered if he really thought I would shove, or even hit, this person. It surprised me a little.

My friend Todd described me years ago as being a "Jack Russell Terrier in a Rottweiler's body". Cute huh? There is some truth in there, as I am not entirely unlike a dog: kick me and I will come back a few minutes later completely forgetting that the kicking took place, or even ignoring that it happened altogether. But kick a person who loves me and I will attack you. Simple.

Back in the bar, the "little prick" could have stood there and poked me with his twinkie finger and it would have only annoyed me. But had he confronted The BF, or any other friend of mine for that matter, he would have faced me - all of me. Would I want to get into a fight? No. Would I do it anyway? No.

Or would I?

Notorious/Little People

Two of my new favorite television shows right now are So NoTORIous and Little People, Big World.

So NoTORIous is the scripted comedy series on VH-1 based on the life of Tori Spelling. Her self-deprecating humour is refreshing. When I first saw Tori act in Trick, another favorite, I was blown away. I remembered wishing that she would do more work like that. Her comedic timing was perfect. And I kept thinking that she was actually playing someone close to who she really is. Her new series proves that to me, as her character is friendly and loving, albeit insecure and a bit out of touch. The show is funny and I will actually laugh out loud. I am glad she has left behind her Beverly Hills 90210 days (even though I would love to have a "Donna Martin Graduated" tee shirt) and has moved on to fun stuff like this.

The other show I am hooked on right now is Little People, Big World - an in-depth series on TLC Channel that looks at the everyday lives of lan extraordinary family made up of both little and average-sized people. The shows follows Matt and Amy Roloff, two little people, born to average-sized parents, who are themselves married with 4 kids - 15-year old twins, Jeremy and Zach, 12-year old Molly, and 8-year old Jacob. Together, they also operate Roloff Farms, a sprawling farm in Oregon. The show follows them as they navigate a world that is not accomodating. It's refreshing.

I like both of these shows because they offer me, as a viewer, an inside look into lives that I would otherwise know nothing about. None of my friends are rich and famous, or physically challenged. This isn't by choice, at least consciously. Perhaps I don't go to places where I would meet these people and learn about them. But cable TV takes me there. It invites me to their worlds on their terms. Both shows seem honest, yet playful. Definitely recommended viewing.

Scarlet O'Hara

Most of the time, when I go out drinking with friends or to a house party, I drink beer. More specifically, light beer. More specifically-er, Bud Light. I love Bud Light. Adore it to pieces. I'd marry it if I could (I think it's legal to wed hops in Germany).

But on those nights when beer just won't cut the mustard, my libation of choice is a Scarlet O'Hara, consisting of Southern Comfort (SoCo) and cranberry juice with a lime. The drink is so named because it is red, a little sweet, southern, and sassy - pretty much just like me.

When I started drinking Scarlets back in the late 80's, I didn't even know it had a name. And to this day, many bartenders I have met have never heard of it. Admittedly, even I thought I had created the drink back in the day. I was in my early 20's, busy being young and fabulous, and wanted to have a signature drink, one that no one else had. Not sure how it happened, but I started ordering SoCo/crans.

It wasn't until I was in my 30's that I met a bartender who had not only heard of the combo, but knew the actual name for the drink. Only trouble is, those drinks go down like Kool-Aid.

And while I have recently been introduced to the Sidecar (and have adopted it into my cocktail rotation), Scarlet O'Hara will remain my signature drink as I continue through the social milieu. Unless of course there is Bud Light around.

Remember When A Word Made Sense?

Wh3n d1d w3 st4rt putt1n6 numb3r5 1n w0rd5??

I noticed this week that two of the top 20 shows on television right now are Unan1mous and Numb3rs. The former is a contest based on greed brought to you by the FOX network, and the latter is a CBS series about an FBI agent who uses his brothers mathematical genius to help solve caseloads - an kind of hip Rain Man.

I just hate this bastardization of the english language. It was bad enough when online chat rooms coerced people to phonetically misspell and abbreviate words in order to type faster. "Cool" became "kewl", "your" became "ur", "are" became "r", "too" and "to" became "2". I don't LOL or ROFL or even LMAO. It is completely possible to write a entire sentence and it not make grammatical sense - looking more like a math equation than a sentence.

What is this all about? What, now words aren't cool enough anymore - we gotta punch them up somehow? Are people going to start naming their kids "R1v3r" or "1-nita"? I would say that this is a pattern of laziness except it actually takes some brainpower in order to write and decipher this drivel.

Being the wordsmith that I am, and a lover of words at that, I find these trends a bit insulting. They're not cool, they're not interesting. It's trying to make something out of nothing. It does not "up" your hip-quotient. Perhaps it's acceptable for your online screen name in order to conserve space, but that's about it. Literacy and intelligence are sexy.

Aiiight?

Only The iPod Knows

Can't remember where I saw this, but the latest use of an iPod is the equivalent to the old 8 Ball - put your iPod on shuffle and get the answer to life's questions.

I asked mine 20 questions and here are the honest responses (I did this with my roommate so there was no cheating):


1. What is my day going to be like? "Ironic" Alanis Morissette
2. How does the world see you? "Everything's Not Lost" Coldplay
3. Will I have a happy life? "Tuesday Heartbreak" Michael McDonald
4. What do my friends really think of me? "Born To Run" Bruce Springsteen
5. Do people secretly lust after me? "Two Doors Down" Dolly Parton
6. How can I make myself happy? "The Rockafeller Skank" Fatboy Slim
7. What should I do with my life? "Photograph" Jamie Cullum
8. What am I afraid of? "Ave Maria"
9. What is my biggest regret? "Theme from the Valley of the Dolls" Dionne Warwick
10. What is my biggest extravagance? "Making Memories of Us" Keith Urban
11. What is some good advice for me? "Singing for the Lonely" Robbie Williams
12. How will I be remembered? "Simple Life" Elton John
13. What should my theme song be? "What a Funny Boy He Is" Nancy Lamott
14. What song will play at my funeral? "Wake Me Up When September Ends" Green Day
15. How is my lovelife? "There Must Be An Angel" Eurythmics
16. Should I seek a new job? "Anthem" Moby
17. How should I describe myself? "I Heard Someone Crying" The Secret Garden
18. What's been my greatest obstacle? "Standing" Patty Griffin
19. If I could change one thing about my life, what would it be? "Easy" Nik Kershaw
20. What is my greatest dream? "Alive Again" Ty Taylor

Camp

When I was a kid (under 10), my Mom's oldest sister, Aunt Susie, and Susie's husband, Uncle Bill, had a summer getaway along a river. We called it, simply, "Camp". It was no more than a trailer from the 1950's with a huge screened in front porch that ran the length of the mobile home, doubling its size. It only had two bedrooms, but it slept like 20-25 people every weekend. There were three fold-out couches on the porch, a double bed in one bedroom, twin beds in another bedroom, a bunk bed and another fold-out couch in what would be the living room, and more than a few hammocks outside. The porch was painted seafoam green, which came to be called "Camp green". Even now, when I see the colour, it instantly takes me back 30 years.

Every weekend in the summer, my parents would pack us up and we would drive the 45-minute trip, through back, winding roads. Sometimes, the drive seemed to take forever, but there were landmarkers along the way that I used to teach myself distance: the turn at the ballistics lab, the cherry orchard, the T-intersection, the Cone Dip, the fruit stand, the large hump in the road, the old Mill, the dilapidated bridge, and Adams' Farm. One by one, these landmarks brought me closer to Camp, and then one by one took me back home again. Sometimes we would spend a full week, sometimes just a weekend. But it started before Memorial Day and lasted until Labor Day - every summer until I was 10. After over 20 years of fun-filled summers, Susie and Bill decided it was too much to take care of. So they sold it and built a pool in their backyard.

Camp sat on several acres of land. The first day at Camp was pretty much just maintenance and upkeep, at least for the adults (we kids just played the entire time). There was A LOT of grass-cutting. And painting. And repairs. And creativity. Especially creativity. The well-house had been converted to a draft house; which means when Camp finally got decent water that didn't need to be boiled before we could drink it every week, they covered over the well and placed a big fridge in the building and created a draft beer system. Only thing is, you had to stand on a two-by-four when you pulled the draft otherwise you risked electrocution. But I could pull an expert draft by the time I was 7.

Days were filled with swimming in the river, playing horseshoes, games, puzzles, and pretty much anything that required imagination. There was no telephone or television at Camp - you made your own fun. Between my cousins and siblings, there were about 15 kids there on any given weekend. Looking back I sometimes wonder how we filled our days there, but we must have done it successfully cause every weekend, we wanted to go back.

Every dinner was a cook-out of sorts and we all gathered around a huge picnic table. Our nights were filled with music and dancing around a campfire to music like"CC Ryder" by Elvis, "Mustang Sally" by Wilson Pickett, and "Proud Mary" by CCR (which is my family's theme song). Card games were popular unless the humidity was high and then it became impossible. This was the place where I learned to swim, learned to ride a bike, learned how to roast a marshmallow. But mostly, it was just sitting, talking, laughing, and drinking beer.

Kids were put to bed probably around 10 (there were no clocks at Camp, either). My bed was the top bunk in the living room. I always had a hard time falling asleep cause I would lay and listen to the adults. Sometimes a kid was snagged from bed and allowed to join in - but not often. But when you were, it was like visiting the North Pole, or Wonka's Chocolate Factory, or some other fabled place you'd only ever heard about but never seen.

Last summer, I made a trek to the old Camp site. True to form, the area seemed so much smaller than it did when I was 10. The walk to the river didn't seem as far, the small saplings that we had each painted our names on were now tall trees, only a few with just a trace of "camp green" still on them. The dirt city we created under the trailer where we played with trucks is now covered in weeds. The cow pasture on the other side of the road is completely overgrown and hasn't seen a cow in 15 years. Adams' Farm is long gone, so is the old Mill, the dilapidated bridge, and for that matter, so is Camp. But my small handprint is still located in the sidewalk, with my name and the year - 1972.

I have thought of all of this because my Aunt Susie is sick now. She's 76 with dark spots on her lungs. Uncle Bill is 83 and walks around with an oxygen tank. This wasn't supposed to happen. They were supposed to stay the same age so that I could grow up and stay up late out by the fire, and talk and dance and laugh with them. I see them now and I long for the time when I was the boy in the top bunk. They were about the same age I am now. I miss those days. I miss those people. My childhood was rich beyond description. Cousins were just more brothers and sisters. Uncles and aunts were just more sets of parents. And as I watch these people get older, I am reminded how lucky I was then.

Vital Facts - Jughead

Last month, I introduced you to my friend Poodle. This month, meet my friend Todd, or as I call him "Jug" (I give nicknames to the ones I really care about). Jug and I met in December 1998 in Chicago. We have only seen each other 5 times since then, but he is one of my closest friends, having stayed in touch through email and phone calls. And when we do see each other, it's as if no time has passed. This week, we had dinner together in the city where we met 8 years ago. Life really does come full circle if we are just patient enough.

Your name: Todd

Your aliases: TJ, Ted, Uncle Ted, Carolinapup, Quillayute, Jughead...I think I have an identity crisis!

What was your first impression of me - and how has your impression of me changed (if at all)? Just this big ball of smiley. That never really changes. I attribute it to good dental care.

What are qualities that you think are important in a friend? Loyalty, trust, humor, sense and sinsibility, and the ability to sacrifice your own time occasionally to make time for theirs.

What is your favorite thing (or things) about yourself? My free-wheeling whimsicality.

What one word do you think best describes you? Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious, bitch! OK...let's go with...grounded. 

If I were describing you to someone who didn't know you, what do you think I would say? "Oh my god, it's like, he's so, like, totally, like, Juggarific, girl!" 

If you were describing me to someone who didn't know me, what would you say? "He's a keeper"

What is something that you are good at? Music -- Playing guitar and piano and any other instrument that looks intriguings.

What is something you wish you were good at? Fixing cars. I can barely get the damned hood open. 

What is something you have done that you are proud of? Just gettin' by in this world and standing on my own two feet. 

What is your philosophy on life? Soak it up. Educate yourself by seeing and doing.

Is there something about me that you've always wanted to know but have never asked? Hmmmm....I know some 'tings, but I'd like to know if there's anyone from your past that you wish was not a part of your past, but your present.

Tell me something that I probably don't know about you. You know I can draw a map of the 50 states perfectly, with all the borders and everything? It's really useful.

What do you like most about me? Your unwaivering friendship.

What do you dislike most about me? Your distance keeps me from picking up the phone and saying 'let's grab lunch'. That and you moved to Chicago about 10 years too late.

If you were trapped in a cell in a dungeon for one year - what 3 people (alive or dead, famous or personal) would you want to be trapped with? I'm in a dungeon and I want to be trapped with other people? Kinky. I'm not really good at this question...but I'd want someone entertaining, so maybe Jimmy Buffett and my favorite band Eddie From Ohio. I'll bring my partner along too. That makes 6 people but I always find loopholes to the rules!

What super power would you want to have? Ooooh...probably to fly. Everytime I'm on a regional jet I feel like I lose a piece of my soul.

Where's your favorite place in your city? And why? In Greenville, it's Paris Mountain State Park...it feels like you're miles away from everything but you're 10 minutes from downtown. 

Where's your favorite place in the world? And why? Seattle. I can't explain it, but from first visit there in '98...I felt like I had come home.

What would you like to happen in the next ten years? I'd like for the general attitude of people in the world to get warmer, the beer to get a little colder, and everything else in my life to be room temperature.

You died and you are standing at the gates of Heaven. God asks you to sum up what you learned on Earth. What would you say? Who is this God person people keep talking about? ;-) Religious beliefs aside, I think I'd tell him that making other people's lives better make mine better. And that's kinda cool. 

One last thing. What question should I ask the next person? "What would you rather be doing now?" (kinda like that ol' bumper sticker)...

59 Things A Man Should Never Do Past 30

Borrowed this from Esquire Magazine (however, since this list was created for straight men, numbers 11, 33 and 43 do not apply to the 'Mos).

1. Coin his own nickname.
2. Use a wallet that is fastened with Velcro.
3. Rank his friends in order of best, second best, and so on.
4. Hacky sack.
5. Name his penis his name plus junior.
6. Hang art with tape.
7. Hang The Scream, unless he stole it from the Munch museum in Oslo.
8. Ask a policeman, "You ever shoot anybody with that thing?"
9. Ask a woman, "Hey, you got a license for that ass?"
10. Skip.
11. Take a camera to a nude beach.
12. Let his father do his taxes.
13. Tap on the glass.
14. Shout out a response to "Are you ready to rock?"
15. Use the word collated on his resume.
16. Hold a weekly house meeting with roommates.
17. Name pets after Middle Earth characters.
18. Jokingly flash gang signs while posing for wedding photos.
19. Give shout-outs.
20. Use numbers in place of words or locations, such as "the 411" for information, or "the 313" for Detroit.
21. Hug amusement-park characters.
22. Wear Disney-themed neckties.
23. Wake up to a "morning zoo."
24. Compare the trajectory of his life with those of the characters in Billy Joel's "Scenes from an Italian Restaurant."
25. Request extra sprinkles.
26. Air drum.
27. Choose 69 as his jersey number.
28. Eat Oreo cookies in stages.
29. Volunteer to be a magician's assistant.
30. Sleep on a bare mattress.
31. End a conversation with "later skater."
32. Hold his lighter up at a concert.
33. Publicly greet friends by shouting, "What's up, you whore?"
34. Wear Converse All Stars with a tuxedo.
35. Propose via stadium Jumbotron.
36. Decide anything based on the ruminations of Howard Stern.
37. Call "shotgun" before getting in a car.
38. Dispute someone else's call of "shotgun."
39. Whine.
40. Mist up during Aerosmith's "Dream On."
41. Purchase fireworks.
42. Google the word vagina.
43. Ride a pony.
44. Sport an ironic mustache.
45. Hit 13 against a 6.
46. Organize a party bus.
47. Say "two points" every time he throws something in the trash.
48. Buy a novelty postcard in another country of topless women on a beach and write, "Wish you were here" on it.
49. Keg stands.
50. Purchase home-brewing paraphernalia.
51. The John Travolta point-to-the-ceiling-point-to-the-floor dance move; also that one from Pulp Fiction.
52. Put less than ten dollars' worth of gas in the tank.
53. Keep a minuscule amount of marijuana extremely well hidden.
54. Read The Fountainhead.
55. Watch the Pink Floyd laser light show at a planetarium.
56. Refer to his girlfriend's breasts as "the twins."
57. Own a vanity plate.
58. Whippits.
59. Say goodbye to anyone by tapping his chest and even so much as whispering, "Peace out."

Nothing New Under The Zun

American Dreamz. Not to be confused with American Dreams.

American Dreamz stars Hugh Grant, Dennis Quaid and Mandy Moore. American Dreams stars a bunch of people I've never heard of and a woman from NYPD Blue. American Dreamz is a contemporary movie about culture and music. American Dreams is/was/might still be a series set in the '60's about culture and music. American Dreamz is American Idol-esque. American Dreams is American Bandstand-esque.

But American Dreamz is way more hip than American Dreams. After all, there is a "z" instead of an "s". But DreamZ, aside from having a bit of flava in the title, boasts the whitest cast ever assembled for a movie; Hugh, Dennis and Mandy all look like they just stepped out of a saltines box. Add to that actors Willem Dafoe and Chris Klein, and the entire cast practically glows in the dark. I haven't seen the movie - I won't see the movie - but it looks as if Hugh is playing a Simon Cowell-Bitchy Brit type, and Dennis is a disengaged, somewhat estranged U.S. President (hmmm, "W"onder "W"ho that could be based on?).

The young female lead in DreamZ is a blonde Midwest chippy with hopes and dreamZ of making it big and making a difference in a struggling world. The young female lead in DreamS is a blonde Philadelphian chippy with hopes and dreamS of making it big and making a difference in a struggling world. Biiiiig stretch guys! Really creative work. Below are images of the two young female leads.

Can you tell which is which? Yeah, me neither.

I think the real American Dream(s)(z) would be for the creative department(s)(z) to be ... well, creative, and to come up with new idea(s)(z). It's one thing to do a variation on a theme, but quite another to do that variation and not even change the title. Simply changing a letter is just downright insulting. What's next?: Happy Dayz? Good Timez? Golden Girlz? Dynazty? Sorro? Tarsan?

It Zucks!

I Cheat Death

Recently, The BF and I took part in a photoshoot designed and photographed by Jessica Sladek, a photographer in Chicago (click here to see his). She had people show up and write something significant about themselves on a white dry-erase board. And then she photographed you in front of it.

By the time I was photographed, the board was loaded sayings like "I want to inspire people", "I lack direction", and "I have just one flaw" (which was obviously NOT mine). Here is the one Jess took of me:


Some facial expression huh? Perhaps I am being skeptical? Perhaps I am being judgmental? Perhaps I am thinking a dirty but fun thought? Perhaps I am saying "come here", or perhaps it is "don't even think about it"? Or perhaps something else. Whatever the case, it's a good shot of me.

And I like the sentence I chose. If you look over to the right, in the center, you will see "I Cheat Death". When I told The BF what I wrote, he responded with, "That's good for you." I like the picture Jess took of him, too. And I am excited to see the others as well. Some of the things that were written on the board were very inspiring.

Impeachable Offense

I had such high hopes for this show when it started last Fall. Along the vein of the Christopher Reeve's Superman slogan of "You will believe a man can fly", Commander-in-Chief gave us "You will believe a woman can be president". Even if it wasn't some kind of covert poll to see if Hillary or Condoleeza should run or not, it was time to advance America's thinking, time to move us forward as a nation. Other countries around the world are electing women to powerful positions. And while America has hinted at it for the last two decades, ABC Programming is here to tell us that we are actually ready for it.

So I tuned in faithfully every Tuesday night to watch Mackenzie Allen run the country. Even though I thought she was a little stiff, Geena Davis did a pretty good job. She folded her arms a bit too much for my liking, but I believed her character portrayal. So at first, I was a believer, and I was hoping that the rest of America was believing with me - that a woman could be president.

And then the show did stupid stuff: a quickie sex hookup on Air Force One while it was being held hostage, a teen kegger in the White House while the president was out of town, two kids making out on a couch in the Oval Office with no security in sight. These are just to name a few. And these scenes made me mad -- made me mad because they were cheapening the entire idea.

I don't believe for a second that a political advisor could hook up on AF-1 while it is being quanrantined in a bomb threat (even if it is "Zack Morris"). I don't believe for a minute that the president's kids could throw an unchaperoned all-night keg party in the mansion and go running through the halls mooning portraits of John Adams. And I don't believe two teenagers could do it on a sofa in the Oval Office and no one else be around to stop it (even Clinton has to use his private bathroom for such meetings). So, for that matter, why should I believe a woman could be president?

The show has now been moved to Thursday nights and has apparently hired new writers. So perhaps it can be revamped and made into the show it promised it would be. I missed its re-debut last Thursday, but I will be watching it tonight, just to see.

Personally, I do believe a woman can be president. But this show does little to advance the cause.